Wanting the fairytale….

For as long as I can remember, as a little girl dreaming about who would love me and be my partner for my life’s journey and my heart and souls companion. I’d read books, and watch movies of all kinds with those perfect happy endings, hoping, wishing and knowing that I would have that kind of a love of my very own someday.

And then one day I was told I would have to grow up.

Why is that so?

I used to think that life and adults were very evil and cruel to little girls by treating them so. For filling their sails with such false hopes.

Now I am not so sure….

I only know, that, I want that fairytale, and YOU my dearest love are my heart and souls companion. This short poem isn’t that wonderful, but it’s mine and yours….

My Fairytale

I want the fairytale.
My handsome prince…
The smile on his lips
and sparkle in his eyes.
His strength and confidence
to always surround me.
The honesty and love,
unconditional in his kiss.
Everlasting promise
to always rescue me.

I want the fairytale.
My fairytale is you.

April 7, 2011

Please accept it for all that it means. I believe that it is a very rare chance for anyone to find their fairytale. I know I have had a very difficult journey to get here and so has my love. I also know that there is no such thing as “happily ever after”.

We all have difficult steps to take, hurdles to jump, mountains to conquer, even leaps of faith…. but I know that together, we can do anything we need to. As one on my favorite songs says “all we need is love!”

Take my hand….


Another poem…

Ok so my muse maybe visiting more often…. just not as often as I would like I suppose. Hehe. Here is one that I started last month but have mulled over for a few weeks before being happy with it.

-You are My Sunshine-

Smiles so bright.
Dry my tears.

Pierce the darkness
Drive away the storms.
Extinguish all my fears.

You warm me,
every heartbeat,
every breath,
every acre of my soul to the very core of my being.

You awaken me, and sustain me.
Nourish and surround me.

My heart and soul soar to the skies for you.

October 2010


Living & loving in life…

Ok so I never thought I would understand the words. Even if you had asked me 4 months ago I would’ve told you that you were delusional and that such a thing didn’t exist simply because I couldn’t see it and had never felt it.

I was wrong.

Living and loving life is being able to wake up and smile.

I think that’s the basic flat out foundation of the whole dam thing. But to know that someone, even if they aren’t right next to you, truly cares for you deep in their soul and being. And to know that you have that same care deep down in the fibers of your being that you didn’t know existed either. That builds it up so much more. To be able to share every little thought from the silliest to the most serious, to be able to voice any little or big thing that happens to pop into your brain and not worry that they are going to look at you like your from another planet. That is all part of the ultimate love in life.

Just a short time ago, I was at a point in my life where I had decided to give up on love and to give up on finding someone to spend my life with. I told myself that there wasn’t anyone for me out there, and even if there was chances were I’d missed him, and even if I did find someone I would screw things up to where it wouldn’t work out anyway. So I decided to let it go, and to focus on being here for my children for now, and after that, what I would do, I had no idea. It is amazing what can happen when you let yourself free like that. Not sure how it happened or who I am to have deserved to finally have found him, but I have. It’s one of the most amazing things on this earth, alongside having my children. Except this was somthing completely unexpected and so perfectly right.

The sun feels that much brighter, the wind this much cooler, the smells of the rain on a stormy day that much sweeter. This love has inspired me and awaken me to finally and fully live my life.

I am so grateful for that.

Choices and decisions…

Have I made the right ones?

I have to constantly remind myself that no matter how hard today is, yesterday is gone and I did alright. I am better now than I was. The kids are better now, and every day is a step forward even though they are small and difficult. Staying in bad situations so my kids could have “things” would have been wrong, and was wrong. They need me well, want me well, and that is what they have now. Is what I am working hard to improve.

Happiness is out there. On a tree, growing an apple for me to come and grab. Have picked a few unripened ones, one with a bruise and a worm inside. This shiny one looks right. 😉 Under this big blue sky all things are possible. It never stops turning, for anyone. That is its nature. We need to remember to go out and enjoy all that it has to offer while we are here and able to. I always forget that too.

This is another reminder to myself. I hope you all don’t mind. 😉


A poem…

I haven’t written one in many many years, and this one was just inspired and I had to put it down. I’ve not ever been a very good critic of my own work. Most of my writing was done in high school, and seems childish to me. This may still be so. But that is neither here nor there, I had to write it regardless. If you have any interest in reading any others they are under my name ladysunflower at the Deviant Art website. So here it goes:

-You Fit Me-

My arms
My mind
My understanding

thoughts and feelings

outside when you hold me
inside when you fill me

My breath
My soul

every waking moment
through deep slumber bliss.

September 7, 2010


What ifs…

That is what my problem is.

What ifs, why not mes, why didn’t Is, I should-haves, and I never wills.

People are always telling me and talking about forgiveness, and moving on, and letting go. Why can’t I? I say these things to myself every day. They are in the past, it doesn’t matter anymore, and the past cannot hurt you. But truthfully, it does hurt me. Every day.

I fear its going to continue to hurt me, and I’m going to continue to feel alone even though I have so many who love me and I know I am not alone. I fear that once my kids grow up and have their own lives I will truly be alone, because it is only for them I am here right now as it is. I fear that with all of my continuous mistakes that there has been one to many and that I have missed my “ship” along the way. They have all sailed and been taken by the ones who do deserve them.

I am a firm solid believer in karma. I cannot think of anything I have ever done that I deserve this suffering, but I must have or I would not be. In my heart I do not believe I deserve these things. I just truly do not understand why I keep running into walls. I feel like I have no brain, no understanding. Everyone around me is smarter than I am because they can make it in life.

for now,

Out of hiding…

Ok, so I had this looooooong post typed up, ready to hit post. And what does IE do? That’s right, freezes. And what has WordPress not done? That’s right, no auto-save done. WTF! Why oh why do I ever try IE when I know its just going to frickin screw up on me??? Now I know I won’t remember or write what I had written before. *sigh* frustrations.

It has yet again been way to long since I sat down and wrote here. But I am crawling out again to try again. I suppose that is a good sign that I do keep trying. What doesn’t feel good is that I have to keep trying, confused? Yah, so am I. I would love to stop having that kicked-in-the-gut feeling.

The kids started school today. Which is great, my oldest has started her freshman year in High School. And my youngest has started Middle School. Which means I’m back to my old stay-at-home self since being let go, which is nice and sucks all at the same time. So what shall I do today…. stress, worry, be in pain from the migraines still? Yah, that sounds about right. *sigh* and its only 9am….

maybe I’ll just go cry a little bit…

Acheivements for today… so far…

Ok, gonna try to get in this habit. Here’s what I feel are my acheivements for the day, so far today anyway.

  • Stayed at work even though my head is exploding with a migraine still.
  • Ate a healthier lunch that was a roasted chicken sandwhich and only 420 calories.
  • Studied for the vocab quiz that’s in class tonight.
  • I told my kids I loved them before they left for school.
  • That’s it so far. Still have quite a few hours to go… so we’ll see if I can add any.


    Been a while…

    Well it seems I let time slip by once again. Things have been rather hectic and I’ve just not had the desire to write anything recently. School is going well. I have passed all the mod’s so far with high A’s. I’m still afraid over every quiz and every test… hell even every practice assignment. But I suppose its a good thing that I prove myself wrong every time.

    Christmas and New Year’s went by way to fast, but did go very well. The kids were happy & had a great time, and that’s what really matters. We went to a Laff’s Comedy Cafe for New Year’s without the kids. I had a blast. Which is a new one for me. If you live in the Tucson area, its most definately a known place and a well reccomended visit for those who like to laugh.

    The other thing keeping me down is the migraines are back. They’ve been daily for over 2 months now and have no sign of going away. The DR had me try vicodin for the pain… didn’t help. We’re now trying fioricets for the pain, they help a bit, and then a beta blocker as a preventitive. She said it’d take 3 weeks before I’d notice if the beta blocker is “blocking” but, I don’t see it helping yet. Did an MRI 2 weeks ago, and haven’t heard back from her as to the results, good or bad. Military doctors, really they frustrate me to no end. So I just try to go through my work day into the school night and just live with the pain.

    Gotta jump back into work and finish up for the day.

    Acheivements for today…

    Just a quick blurb… going to try something that’s always been hard for me, to list what I have accomplished today. Meaning, what I have done WELL/GOOD/POSITIVE….

  • Tested my blood sugar levels 5x today.
  • Kept my bs levels below 200 today.
  • Had my career portfolio ready for grading by the time class started tonight.
  • I did NOT have any “crying” moments today.
  • I told my kids I loved them.
  • That’s all I can think of right now. Its late, and class fried my brain.


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